Sanity requires one of two choices:
1) A general sense of control of one’s life. This requires a healthy dose of denial and luck. And it can be work.
2) Embracing the ambiguity, chaos, and imperfection that life is. Letting go of inflexible black/white expectations. This does not require a sense of control or has to utilize denial, but instead it requires ingenuity, creative imagination, and the ability to wing it in the improve that is life. And it is work.