Dear Dr. Brilliant Cliché,
I am Jewish and my son married a Catholic. He now has a five month old baby. He is converting to Catholicism and having the baby baptized. So my question is what to do for holidays?
Your Granddaughter will get Christmas from everyone else. You can do Hanukah. You can still go over their house and share Christmas with them; and you should invite them to your home for Hanukah. If you make it fun she will grow up with fond memories of both holidays.
Disrespecting or disregarding your sons choices would be bad role modeling. Kids can be brought up bilingual, bi religious or bi racial. It is only a problem if it is a problem for their parents and families.
I always say in the big scheme of things you’d rather your children get hit with religion than hit with a bus!
Dr. Brilliant Cliché
The Granny Doctor can tell you first hand that there is nothing more fun than learning about different cultures and religions by experiencing family celebrations. My family lives in Taiwan and my grandson is growing up learning three different languages and living among temples where many gods are worshipped. I have enjoyed two weddings and Chinese New Year in Taoyuan, and I would love to be able to spend Christmas there some day. All of my experiences have been new and exciting and have enriched my life.
Be grateful that you don’t have to fly halfway across the world to share the holidays with your family. Think of it this way- instead of just having one occasion to celebrate, you get two! Lucky you.