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Dear Dr. Brilliant Cliché,
I am married and run a rather successful small business. One of our new
secretaries is extremely attractive and seems to be rather suggestive. I am not
entirely sure she is flaunting herself at me thus I am not sure what to do
Some people are like an alluring poison. They need to establish control to feel
secure. Sex is a form of control. This has nothing to do with healthy love or
even what society calls infatuation; it is entirely toxic. If you even consider
having an affair with her it will go badly for you. No matter how inflated she
might make you feel, or how much you feel you might help her, or how good a
listener she is…. it is all pure bullshit.
If you sleep with her you are turning control of your soul over to her and there
will be no backing out. She is like cocaine. The addiction and the crash will be far more devastating than the high. Do not think with your dick or
A relationship with a relative stranger who has no respect for your marriage and
can’t possibly know anything about you is nothing but an ego based fantasy.
Reality always sets in. The letdown is devastating and the consequence is more
intense than the relationship was.
Keep a healthy distance from her and maintain your boundaries. Treat her no
differently than you would Bob the mailman. If you can’t, then you will have to
find a way to let her go within the bounds of reasonable business.. Most
likely, if you don’t respond, her behavior will cease.
Be careful- she might end up in conflict with your other staff.
Granny says: What are you, some kind of idiot? Don’t do anything about it, whether she
is flaunting or not. You’re married. You have a rather successful small
business. She works for you. I can’t think of a better way to screw up both
your marriage and your business.
No woman gets sexually involved with a married man just to fulfill his fantasy.
Not unless he has a lot of money and she’s a ‘Ho.
And listen- not every woman who is extremely attractive is hot to trot or some form
of alluring poison, even if she wears flattering clothes.
Granny used to wear short skirts because she had nice legs and wanted to show them off
while she was still young. It can be as simple as that. Let’s not condemn this
poor woman solely on the evidence of your hard on.
Get real. You are hoping she is flaunting herself because the idea flatters you and
makes you think you still have it.
Yes, you idiot, you do still have it. You’re still married and you still have your
Want to keep them? Keep it in your pants!